Here are 10 ways you can develop the mindset shared by the most confident people.
- Define your purpose
It’s hard to be confident in what you’re doing if you’re not sure why you’re doing it. What is your purpose in work and in life? Once you identify your “why”, you’ll be more confident because you will know what your purpose is.
- Avoid comparing yourself with others
In almost every case, when you compare yourself with someone else, it takes the form of negative self-talk about how you’re not good enough. Doing this weakens self-confidence. The only person you need to compare yourself with is the version of yourself that you want to become. That’s it.
- Focus on solutions
There will always be challenges. But focusing solely on a problem is a self-defeating practice. Instead, acknowledge that problems will arise and, as a strong leader, focus on finding solutions when they do. The more problems you overcome, the more confidence you’ll build and the easier it will be to find solutions.
- Play to your strengths
Sometimes we spend more time making up for our perceived weaknesses than we do honouring our strengths. While I certainly agree with improving weaknesses, you may find that your confidence will increase when you play according to your strengths. For example, if you’re not good at math (like me), don’t be a chief financial officer. Stay with your strengths.
- Fake it till you make it
If you suffer from imposter syndrome, or the untrue belief that you’re not good enough, just pretend to be confident. Keep embracing the idea that you’re already successful. You may not be convinced at first, but eventually your thoughts will follow your emotions and you’ll become a more confident person.
- Take action
Fear can be paralysing. Ignore the voice in your head telling you that you can’t do something, and take action anyway. The more you allow fear to hold you back, the stronger the negative voice will become. It works in the other direction too: the more you take action, the quieter the negative voice will become.
- Take pride in your appearance
When you look good, you’ll feel good. When you feel good, you feel confident. Wear the clothes you want to wear. Invest in how you look and you’ll invest in your own success.
- Focus on the positive
Negative self-talk and pessimism form a vicious cycle and a drain on your confidence. Focus on your positive attributes instead of perceived weaknesses; focus on your accomplishments rather than on your perceived failures. Stay focused on what is working instead of on what is not working.
- Be ready
Success is part preparation and part opportunity. Study, practice, and do what it takes to prepare yourself for when the right opportunity knocks on your door. If you’re prepared, you are more likely to have the confidence to capitalise on the opportunity.
- Embrace the power of body language
Body language speaks much louder than words. When you’re feeling down on yourself, change your posture: pull your shoulders back, hold your head high, stand with your feet wide and put your hands in the air like a superhero. Notice how the new stance quickly changes your mood and boosts your confidence.