Ronéll and Anke van Rooyen
We regularly have a nice conversation about the subject of the Five Love Languages, viz. constructive words, touching, quality time, acts of love, and gifts. Today I want to make it practical in an enjoyable way in this article by just listing ideas for families to test and practise these languages during the holidays! Take your computer along and keep this article handy.
- THE LANGUAGE OF CONSTRUCTIVE WORDS
* Stick constructive words on the breakfast cereal container.
* Write constructive verses on your family’s mirrors in their bathrooms and rooms.
* Send constructive messages to your family’s cell phones.
* Keep an attractive container in the kitchen in which the family can drop constructive notes that you can read aloud at one meal during the week.
- THE LANGUAGE OF TOUCH
* Take hands while grace is said at table.
* Kiss or hug your family in the morning when everybody leaves the house or in the evening when you go to bed.
* Give each other a take-five to congratulate each other.
* Play contact games and sport.
* Wrestle or play with each other’s hair.
- THE LANGUAGE OF QUALITY TIME
* Stop what you’re doing and make eye contact when somebody talks to you.
* Take videos of your special times and later view them together.
* Do things together or make a fixed coffee appointment with one member of the family every week.
* Watch a DVD together at home.
* Have every meal together as a family.
* Play games and spend holidays together as a family.
* Plant something together in the garden or find out what every family member likes and do it with him or her.
- THE LANGUAGE OF ACTS OF LOVE
* Join your children in doing their particular sport, e.g. throwing a cricket ball.
* The family can become involved in the community and do charity work.
* Make a special breakfast-in-bed for the family.
* Help each other clear the kitchen after meals.
* Sometimes help the children to tidy their rooms and use the time for quality constructive conversation.
- THE LANGUAGE OF GIFTS
* Keep little gifts in you cupboard or keep sweets handy while on holiday to use as gifts, when your family will see it as an act of love.
* Give unusual gifts, such as making up a special song with his or her name in it.
* Buy a special ring for your daughter as a token of your love and your promise to protect her and help her to find the right life partner.
* At Christmas time buy a gift or food hamper together as a family to give to an organisation or poor person.
* Buy gifts that last forever, such as a small tree.
* Regularly buy flowers for your wife and the children can pick flowers for Mummy and Granny.
* Make photo cards for Grandpa and Granny to show them how the children are growing.
* Focus on cheap, self-made gifts and give them on thanksgiving day rather than on Christmas Day. Make a thank-you day for saying thank you to each other and keep Christmas Day just for God’s gift of love, His Son. On that day commemorate and enjoy His gift to you.
Keep on loving. Keep on talking. Keep on listening. Keep on doing. Keep on GIVING!!
Gary Chapman, 2010. The 5 Love languages of teenagers.
Chris Hudson, Website Understanding teenagers ,
Max Lucado, 2012. Wild Grace
Jim Fay & Foster Cline, March 2006. Parenting teens with love and logic