By Melodie Veldhuizen
“Contentment is not a passive surrender to the wind and the weather, a shrug about apparent unavoidable circumstances. Contentment is in actual fact the sigh of fulfilment after you have done your part to the best of your ability, but without that consuming desire for more. Especially when it’s about status and possessions. Contentment is accompanied by being grateful. To be grateful for the things you do have. To acknowledge all your talents as gifts from God’s hand. To fully enjoy that which you have.” (Johan Smit)
It is possible to be content with what you are and what you have. True contentment comes from within.
- Never compare yourself or your situation with others. There will always be someone who is richer, more educated, more attractive than you. But remember, there are also many people who are worse off than you in many aspects.
- Cherish your uniqueness. By comparing yourself to others, you deny your own uniqueness and the person you are destined to be.
- Be positive. For every negative thought, try to think of at least one positive thing. “Keep your thoughts positive, because that determines your words. Keep your words positive, because that determines your behaviour. Keep your behaviour positive, because that determines your habits. Keep your habits positive, because that determines your values. Keep your values positive, because that determines your destination.” (Mahatma Gandhi)
- Take stock of your life regularly. Count your blessings and be grateful for what you have and for who you are. Keep a grateful-list handy and add something each day.
- Should there be something that you really desire, ask yourself why you want it – do you really need it, do you want it purely because your best friend/colleague/sister has it? Will it add value to your life or will it merely make you look and feel good?
- If you are carrying the burden of something that happened in your life, accept responsibility. Take control of what you can, let go of what you cannot change and move on.
- Be good to yourself and make time for yourself. Sometimes you only need a few hours, at other times a few days just to regain your breath and recharge your energy. Do something that you enjoy and that makes you happy.
- Find joy in the small things in life. Often these are free. A breath-taking sunset, the happy laughter of a child, a hug from a dear friend, beautiful music.
- Show people you care about them and accept them as they are. Say it in words, with a smile or a hug, or spend time with them. Make it your purpose to be kind and friendly towards others. In this way the focus shifts away from you in a healthy way and that which causes you to be unhappy, to other people who might be experiencing difficulties greater than yours.
- A smile works wonders. It makes you feel and look better. It furthermore attracts people to you and makes them feel better as well.
- Re-evaluate your relationships. Reflect on the influence of every person in your life. Hold on to people who would like you to be successful, who inspire you and make you happy. And distance yourself from toxic persons who make you feel bad about yourself, have a negative effect on you and drain your energy.
- If you feel you really need certain changes to be completely content, remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day. Save faithfully for the overseas trip you desire, maintain a healthy lifestyle to eventually reach your envisaged weight target. But still live in gratefulness for that which you have now and who you are at this given moment in your life.
Code of Living. https://www.codeofliving.com/how-to-be-satisfied-with-your-life/
Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-change/201210/start-today-feel-more-satisfied-life
Zen Habits. https://zenhabits.net/the-incredible-power-of-contentment/