By Nico Strydom
February is known as the month of love and the annual celebration of Valentine’s Day means declarations of love, red roses by the dozen, showing affection openly as well as broken hearts.
Love is generally defined as an intense feeling of deep affection towards someone or an intense interest in and enjoyment of something. Daily we declare our love for a life partner, family and friends. Most people would however agree that love for a life partner, family and friends takes on different forms.
According to a well-known saying, love is all you need. From childhood you are told that some day you will fall in love, marry, have children and live happily ever after. However, to say love only is enough is not the reality.
To love someone else and all their good and bad points with your entire being sounds wonderful in principle, but it’s not always that easy. Of course, there is a big difference between being in love, being attracted to someone and to genuinely love someone.
To genuinely love someone requires that you no longer put your own interests and feelings first, but also consider those of your partner. Love also is not just a feeling but an action. To love someone means much more than just uttering the words. It means respect, communication, a shoulder to cry on, trusting someone with your entire being, putting someone above yourself and being willing to persevere in good and bad times.
Relationships and marriages are not without problems or challenges. In a relationship where someone is not respected, is abused emotionally, verbally or physically, is misused or cheated on, is dominated or not respected, love only is not enough.
Of course, love is essential for a relationship and it can be the basis thereof, or even a huge part of the foundation. However, it is only one of the ingredients necessary for a happy, healthy and successful relationship.
Love is a choice rather than a feeling. It is sad, it is pain and sacrifice. But it can also be the most wonderful thing in the world when coming sincerely from both sides.
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Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/za/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201507/is-love-really-all-you-need