By Marli Naidoo
Many mothers’ greatest dream is to stay home with their children and not to miss any single new word or milestone. However, it is not always as lovely as it sounds. To be a full-time mom is hard work. It is essentially the same as working from 9 to 5, except that the working hours just never end. Like any job, it has advantages and disadvantages, and unfortunately one of the disadvantages is that many mothers struggle with depression when they are a full-time parent.
This is completely understandable because it is a job without straightforward job satisfaction. You clean and wipe and pick up, only to start all over again with the same tasks. Your child loves you very much, but does not give you one moment of privacy, nor will he of she notice when you dress nicely or dye your hair. It is easy to feel like a failure when you don’t see results (you can hope to see results in 20 years’ time).
Other reasons for this depression is that mothers compare themselves to other parents, especially on social media. Then there is also the never-ending list of things that still need to be done. Critical family members and friends also contribute to negative thoughts and emotions. Financial pressures occur in many families who have to survive on a single income, and this can aggravate depression. In addition, a new mother often also suffers from low self-esteem due to changes in the mother’s body after the baby’s birth.
It is important that every mom should take good care of herself. Reach out to your female friends and do not feel ashamed to ask for help. You need time alone, even if it is just so that you can sleep undisturbed for a few hours. Ask a friend to look after your children for one afternoon in a week, and then you can do the same for her on another day.
Don’t give up all your hobbies to dedicate all your time to your children. They need to see that you consider yourself to be valuable so that they can do the same. Read a book or do sewing; do something you enjoy.
Exercise regularly. There are few things that can make one feel as good as exercise. Also eat regularly and healthily. A hungry mom is seldom a happy and patient mom.
Stay away from social media. You should not compare yourself with others, as it will just make you feel worse about yourself.
Join a moms’ group. You will be surprised to see how many moms struggle with the same feelings.
Stop feeling guilty. It is okay to struggle at times and to feel unhappy sometimes. This does not mean you are a failure. You experience negative emotions so you can figure out the cause. Apply self-care to overcome these emotions.
Get professional help. If you feel you cannot cope any longer, start thinking about suicide, feel irritated and moody all the time, experience weight or sleep changes, and constantly feel overwhelmed, it is important that you make an appointment with your doctor or psychologist immediately. There is help; you do not have to struggle alone.
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